Weed Your To-Do Garden

Every year I weed my garden. I try to weedexisted before. The great part was that at the
whatever doesn't feel good, including chores,time, learning felt like a choice; I learned these
inanimate objects (dying plants) and people (yes,things to reach some coaching goals I set and
people!). I use a trick called Bag It, Barter It,working toward those goals felt delicious.
Better It. It's a brilliant exercise that you can doHowever, there were other technological
on your own, requiring you to look over yourchallenges I needed to overcome, and they felt
to-do list, see what you don't like doing, andawful. So I listened to how I felt, and I hired
decide what to bag, barter, or better.someone to design, implement and distribute my
Bag It! (Don't do it.)newsletter. It was worth every penny. It freed
I bagged picking up the dry cleaning and makingme up to do the things that I love, the things that
dinner during the week. I now have a dry cleaningbring energy, vitality and bliss to my life...coaching,
pickup and delivery service, and my husband pickswriting, spending time with my family, biking and
up dinner on his way home from work. Thesereading. This is one of the benefits of weeding
two things made me want to dance on my diningmy garden: I can spend my time doing things that
room table.feel great.
Barter It! (Get someone else to do it.)Here's how you can weed your own garden.
Last year I bartered with my children. They nowStart by making a list of all the things you have
feed the dog, set and clear the table nightly, washto do.
the dishes, and take out the trash. This invokesNext, note which tasks create any sort of stress
more dancing on my part. My son also puts awayor tension for you.
the groceries when I return from the store. ThisAsk yourself, "Why am I doing this?" What would
brings on the jitterbug! These things make mehappen if you didn't do ti? Why would that be so
want to kiss my children, but only after I kisshorrific? Do this with your chores, the plants you
myself for being so brilliant and realizing I don'tkeep watering that you really don't like, and the
have to be General Manager of the Universe.people you spend your time with.
Better It! (Make the tasks a little more enjoyable.)Then, see if you can bag the task. Don't do it.
I bettered the tasks I don't care for but still needIf you can't bag it, see if you can barter it. Trade
to do, like grocery shopping, by buying myself awith someone who loves to do what you love to
yogurt on the way home. This makes me wantdo. Bartering also includes paying someone!
to dance like John Travolta in Staying Alive!Lastly, brainstorm how you can make the task
This year I'm going to do the same exercisebetter.
because I noticed that I've unconsciously addedWhat will you weed out this year? I guarantee
things to my "to do" list without my own consent.that you if you take the time to complete this
In other words, I let my subconscious mind, theexercise, you'll discover a brown patch in your
default mode part of my mind, agree to thingsgarden. Imagine clearing that space and allowing
without running it by my conscious mind first.something new and green to grow into something
Becoming a coach has required me to learnbeautiful.
technological stuff that I never even knew