| As a Life Coach it is my job to interact with | | | | help you get to the next level. Be honest with |
| people. More often than not, people come to me | | | | yourself; are you spending too much time with |
| complaining that there is something missing in their | | | | friends? Not enough time taking care of yourself? |
| lives. They hate their lives, their jobs, their | | | | 4. Break the challenge(s) down into bite-size |
| partners and often have a hard time figuring out | | | | pieces; completing small tasks gives you an |
| what IS going right for them. When I start asking | | | | immediate feeling of achievement and that boosts |
| questions, it becomes clear that so many of us | | | | your confidence. Writing goals and objectives |
| are spreading ourselves so thin, that other | | | | down is a visual way to see where you are and |
| aspects of life become fragile and at times, | | | | the steps needed to push forward. It is also |
| fractured. And since we are so busy with what | | | | helpful to check them off as you complete them. |
| we 'have' to do, we resent that we don't have | | | | You may need to shift things around and yes, it |
| more time for other things, sometimes we even | | | | might take time. |
| get physically sick because we don't take care of | | | | 5. Involve others as necessary; delegate tasks at |
| ourselves and furthermore, we wait until our | | | | work or recruit someone to help you at home to |
| relationships are a disaster and we don't know | | | | get the work done. You may want to hire a |
| where to turn to look for help. | | | | teenager to help with your kids for a couple of |
| Yes, we are responsible to make time for the | | | | hours while you get a massage, or you may want |
| different tasks, obligations, and responsibilities that | | | | to barter services to get work around the house |
| are required from us. Whether from work, around | | | | done. Ultimately, it is about regaining control of |
| the house, activities we volunteer for, they all | | | | your time. |
| require of our time and energy. However, I think | | | | Life balance is without a doubt; one of those |
| that the key to life is balance. I don't think we | | | | concepts we hear over and over and over and |
| should ever forget that our bodies need time to | | | | many of us just don't get. Achieving balance is |
| be replenished and that when we are gentle with | | | | also what I call 'work in progress.' We ought to |
| ourselves, we are better able to handle all the | | | | check in with ourselves daily or any time a new |
| challenges that will pull us in every direction within | | | | task presents itself. Do I really want to do this? |
| our daily lives. | | | | What is the cost involved? (not necessarily |
| The other angle here is that when we think about | | | | monetarily.) A good friend and colleague of mine is |
| balance, we cannot forget that it cannot all be | | | | selective about the things she allows on her |
| about work, or fun, or any given concept. When | | | | agenda. She classifies the things she has to do by |
| we play too much, then there are other areas | | | | whether she feels good about them and whether |
| that will be neglected. For instance, if we are too | | | | they will be fun do to. Granted, I know that there |
| focused on any given activity we lose perspective | | | | are some things we absolutely have to do and I |
| as it relates to all the other things that matter. | | | | get it. My position is that with the 'must do's' we |
| Life is composed to a lot of little circles that | | | | ought to adopt a perspective of 'want to' in order |
| interconnect; that intersect on a point named you. | | | | to regain a sense of control. |
| In order to make it all work, my advice is to stop | | | | When I think of life there is so much that comes |
| overlooking what is obvious. | | | | to mind! Good times with family and friends, |
| 1. Come to terms with the fact that something is | | | | achieving career success on a job I love, traveling, |
| wrong; you cannot change what you don't | | | | seeing my children grow and giving them |
| acknowledge. Working 60 hours at work may help | | | | opportunities in life, helping others, fulfilling a life of |
| you get the job you want; but is it worth it if you | | | | faith, experiencing crafts and arts...so much more! |
| get sick or your spouse is unhappy? | | | | So my call to you today is about making a |
| 2. Accept that you might need help; you don't | | | | commitment to life a balanced life. At the end of |
| have to be Superman or Superwoman; nobody | | | | the day, it cannot be all about work, or any one |
| expects you to- Share your experience with | | | | thing! Live life to the fullest and enjoy all life can |
| others and listen to what they have to say. After | | | | offer...you will feel empowered, better about |
| all, no man is a world and your circle of family and | | | | yourself and in control. Nothing and nobody can |
| friends can help you overcome barriers. | | | | take that away from you and if you are |
| 3. Make a commitment to change; understanding | | | | struggling to reach a sense of balance in your life, |
| that something is wrong is critical. Denial will never | | | | Life Coaching might be just what you need. |